Before I begin explicating about this, I want to clarify that I have done A LOT of research concerning this "issue". I've had a slight obsession with the Japanese culture since I was 13 years old, and from there I've built my knowledge to really understand the Japanese culture. No, I'm definitely no expert! These are just things I have come to learn through personal interest in the topic. Sorry for such a long elucidation, I just don't want anyone to attack and question my sources. I'm simply doing this to help you girls out! :)
These are FIVE qualities that attract a true JAPANESE guy. What I mean by true is, someone who has really grown up in the Japanese society. Of course, every guy is different and this doesn’t apply to every Japanese guy on the street.
1) SKIN: Clear, white, and flawless skin. Japanese guys will notice the skin right away. White beautiful skin is THE epitome of beauty in Japan. It's amazing how much attention and worship is put into a pale complexion. But why is white skin so sought after in Japan? It’s really what the white color represents. Innocence. Purity. Youth. Untainted. The quest to be forever young is never ending in Japan, and white skin reflects that pure youthful little girl.
2) PERSONALITY/ATTRIBUTES: Your personality has to be gracious, respectful, modest, slightly demure, innocent, friendly, approachable, sensitive, and MOST IMPORTANTLY SHY. All these qualities will make you appear as a “cute girl”, and being cute is the ultimate goal of girls in Japan. Now, the whole shyness thing works like this. Japanese express themselves through actions, not words. They will not confront you in any way about anything. Most romantic feelings are conveyed through shyness. It’s a natural display of emotion when we are in the presence of someone we like. In Japan though, the shyness is embraced! It is considered cute, and when you are shy, you are someone vulnerable who is easy to approach and talk to. Traditional Japanese guys are not used to outspoken, confident, and outgoing girls. This does not mean they aren’t attracted to them! It is just easier and less intimidating if the girl has a peaceful quiet presence about her that is predictable, making her not a frightening risk. The Japanese guy is already shy enough as it is compared to other races of men! You have to understand and adjust to his shyness.
3) APPEARANCE: Now, besides healthy skin, another quality that attracts Japanese guys is a well kept appearance. Clothes have to be clean, feminine, and non-revealing! Of course I believe everyone has their own personal style and should stick to it. It’s ridiculous that we should change our edge for frilly skirts just because they MIGHT find it a little more appealing. I don’t see them changing out of their shirts for us! Anyways, in all seriousness, they are attracted to the feminine look, but they definitely love a well put together look as well, whether it’s feminine or not. I think as long as it works on you, and you look effortlessly yourself, they will be attracted. Also, cleanliness (hygiene) is very important! You must have fresh, clean, & soft hair. If you wear make-up, it needs to look natural, and your clothes can’t have any stains!
4) PHYSIQUE/FEATURES: This is controversial because to place all Japanese men in the same category and “speak on their behalf” is very unfair and inaccurate of me! Everyone is different and obviously have different tastes, but I will still state what the general Japanese guy and society finds “ideal”. Japan is dangerously obsessed with being thin, and already has a large percentage of girls on the underweight side. They consider being thin very “cute” because it makes you, literally in this case, very FRAGILE. There is very little obesity when it comes to girls AND guys. This means there are a lot of THIN guys who will most likely want to be with someone smaller because it makes them manlier. We can’t judge them because we want guys bigger and stronger to make us more feminine. One unusual feature that Japanese guys find attractive is a very skinny wrist.
Now, when it comes to height, there isn’t really an ideal height. A good portion of Japanese guys like tiny girls because it makes the girl “cute” while other guys love the tall supermodel type because their legs are skinny and long. It’s all down to personal preference. The same thing is with bust size. In Japan it is not focused on at all like for example in the West. So, when asking a Japanese guy to name his top three must have traits in a girl, bust size will almost never be on the list.
When it comes to the face, the most attractive features have always been round eyes, (No, NOT Western eyes, Just rounder eyes!) small lips, long lashes, and a well defined nose. The nose I’m not so sure about. I doubt it is paid any attention by guys, but in Japan they sell numerous products that are supposed to enhance the nose to make it less “flat”. This does prove that it has some beauty standards.
5) OTHER POINTERS AND FACTS: Japanese guys do not like strong scented perfumes. The most attractive scent is “just out of the shower” because it’s a subtle clean fragrance that doesn’t overwhelm him. So ladies, avoid spraying on too much unless it’s very lightly scented.
Speaking of too strong, try to avoid strong flirting and be very subtle with your intentions. Because they are so shy, many sites recommend taking control and making the first move. This might work for some people, and might be considered very fresh and attractive by Japanese guys, but try the subtle way first. If you pounce on him first thing, and he doesn’t like it, it’ll be hard to take back. But, if you “shyly” get to know him and he finally notices you in a romantic way, things can only get better. If he doesn’t, then go on and pounce.
Japanese guys are said to be much more considerate of girls, and will insist on paying for things, carrying bags, and assuming most of the time that you cannot handle simple tasks. Let him. That is all I can say. In Japan, the man is above the woman and it is his JOB to do these things. Do not be offended if he doesn’t, and do not be offended if he does. If you are an avid manga reader, then I strongly suggest you do not take example from these. Although some of them have a grasp on relationships and so on in Japan, it will never be reality when they come from only one persons mind. Reality is much different.
I have written more than I intended to, and I hope that I have helped in some way and given an insight to things you haven’t known before! If I have left anything out, I’ll make sure to post more about this and other things related.
Thank you for reading!
If anyone has their own opinion concerning “Attracting Japanese guys”, feel free to comment and share your thoughts!
